The adventures of a Mom with ADHD raising three children with varying combinations or degrees of ADHD and Autism.
Showing posts with label service. Show all posts
Showing posts with label service. Show all posts
Tuesday, January 6, 2015
Countdown to Disney 2015
It is a new year and time to get our third annual year magnet from Disney World. Due to my school schedule (I'm going at it pretty hard so I graduate at the end of this calendar year) and trying to avoid the summer vacation crowds, the best time for us to go is the beginning of May.
In 2013, we stayed at the Shades of Green Resort. It was okay, but lacked a kitchen in the room--or even a decent size refrigerator and microwave unless we went several floors up to the laundry room, nor was there a complimentary breakfast--so we ended up having to eat out every meal (which got old fast, not to mention expensive because we were not eligible for the Disney Dining Plan--which in our case is not worth getting.)
So, once we calculated the price differential between Shades of Green and eating out every meal--breakfast, lunch, and dinner (plus 2-3 snacks per day) and the cost of a cabin (with the Miltary Discount) at Disney's Fort Wilderness Resort , and eating lunch either in a park, in a resort restaurant, or in Downtown Disney and being able to get up and get our breakfast at a leisurely pace as we dress and ready for the day and then have a quiet dinner back in the cabin--we actually came out a bit ahead and the trip was much more relaxed.
Since we liked Fort Wilderness, we are going again in May. However, this time, we are going to rent an RV through myRVHotel.com. We will fly down and take advantage of the Magic Express Service and the RV company will have everything set up and the Magic Express Service will take care of getting our luggage from the airport to the camper.
For us, a kitchen is vital because of multiple food allergies and intolerances and adherence to a paleo diet (though we may loosen up on that on vacation--but not too much, lest we end up feeling poorly and grumpy and it "ruins" the vacation...)
There are a few things I'd like to do this year:
Pin Trading
Buy Mickey Hats with our names on them and get a family group picture in front of Cinderella's castle. The cast members are willing to use your camera plus, even without the Memory Maker, you can buy the pictures a la carte through the Photo Pass service.
Pressed Pennies
A Character meal. Since I know my kids would get a kick out of Stitch and Mickey, it looks like the one at Ohana is the one to go to...and they will eat a lot of breakfast foods, but dinner foods offered may be very hit or miss so we want to try for breakfast one of the days we are there.
Maybe I will have a chance to hit a spa...(not likely though...for fear of Dame Littlebit pitching a fit because I go off and leave her).
Friday, December 12, 2014
Acceptance or rather perceived lack thereof of neurologically disabled persons in churches...
I have attended many churches. Many
times, I will start, then for some reason or another will skip a Sunday or two
until I find it has been months or even years since I have been to church. I want to find a church that is big enough to
be able to offer lots of opportunities for service where I can contribute, but
small enough that I am not lost in the crowd.
I want one that is growing, not one that is dying. I want one where we can worship as a family,
but has a place I can go if one of my children needs to be removed from the
service for a few minutes to calm down.
However, my husband wants a church where we can drop the children at
some nursery, children’s church, or Sunday School service during the main
worship service so that we can concentrate on the service. The problem is, though, that they have
chronologically aged out of nursery, but they are not developmentally mature enough to handle their own age group.
Despite
giving lip service to families of disabled children, many churches, especially those in rural areas or those in areas with highly transient populations (unless the pastor's child is one of those children, it seems) do not have
the infrastructure in place to support these families and their children, especially when the children have
developmental disabilities but look completely normal. In fact, many families of children with such
disabilities are run out of church, especially when the child does not
conform—either constructively by being made to feel they don’t belong and their
child’s presence is a bother, or they are directly asked to leave. I think that it is easier for many people, emotionally, so
long as the disabled or other “different” people are “others” and distant. When the same people are in your face, and
you must personally be inconvenienced by their presence (perhaps the tics or
the self-stimulatory behaviors are distracting), then it is harder to be
patient and accepting.
My son is 11,
could pass for seven, maybe a young eight, but he needs supervision about on
the same level as a toddler. However,
putting him in the nursery with the toddlers is not the answer; first, because
he would be bored, but second, and most important, because the parents of the
toddlers would be upset at his presence because he is so much bigger than
them. I have lost count of the number
of times I have offered my children videos on the iPad or iPhone in order to
keep them quiet and seated. And, if that
fails, one of us (usually me) has to get up with the child to go for a
walk. Then comes the dilemma of whether
taking them to church is positive and if they are getting anything out of it or
are we just wasting gas in our car.
Labels:
acceptance,
autism,
children's church,
church,
conform,
developmental,
developmentally,
disabilities,
disability,
nursery,
service,
supervision,
support,
toddler,
worship
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